Perfect Colour Combos -- Wardrobe Colour Wheel

 

 

8 mistakes women make in a fight

(by Dr. John Dray, author of "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus")

1. Raising your voice with emotion
Try to resist the temptation of being accusing, mocking, or sarcastic.

2. Using rhetorical questions
Avoid asking questions like, "How could you say something like that?" Try to express what you do like and accept. For example, "I understand and agree with that, but..."

3. Making generalized complaints
Saying things like "We never spend time together." or "You're not doing the things that you said you would do." are not specific enough for men. In general men do not respond to the abstract as well as the specific. Give examples of what he has done if you want to be heard. Give direction with such comments as, "Let's plan a date to go out this week."

4. Expecting him to respond like a woman instead of a man.
Try not to say things like "Why can't you speak from your heart?" or, "You're not opening up to me."  Try to say things like, "I understand that it is difficult for you to open up about this," or, "I know you want to solve the problem, but right now I just need you to hear me."

5. Bringing up old issues
Don't muddy the waters with past arguments and points of disagreement. Stay with the issue you are dealing with at the moment otherwise you run the risk of having your partner turning off his hearing all together.

6. Comparing him to another man or how he acted in the past
Never compare him to another man unless you want the fight to escalate quickly. Even more confusing for him are comments like, "You used to be so much more affectionate." Instead make a positive statement and give him a model of behavior you want him to follow. For example, "I love it when you...."

7. Expecting him to make you feel good
Women need to take the responsibility to feel good on their own, especially after a fight or argument. Do not say things like, "Well that doesn't make me feel any better." Try instead to say, "I think I'll take some time for myself and go play some tennis, or do some shopping, or take a walk."

8. Controlling the conversation.
These are the times when your mate feels like he is facing a tsunami of issues without having a chance to stand up and explain things from his perspective. You're never going to come to a satisfactory conclusion in any argument until both sides feel they have had a chance to express themselves.

~AK

I see what he did there...

- AS

Le us

- AS

I love instagram!

- AS

Coffee is a Drug. A Warm Delicious Drug

This is me in the morning.

(source : http://savevsdeath.blogspot.com/)

~AK

Pretty Little Gems

What makes every girl's day.


(Marchesa F/W 2012/13)

(Source: http://www.etoday.ru/2012/04/sumochki-marchesa-osen--zima-2.php#more)

~AK

"My Valentine" by Paul McCartney

Simple is beautiful. 

An amazing romantic song by Paul McCartney featuring Natalie Portman and Johnny Depp.

~AK

This is so us. Literally.

~AK

How we flirt pt. 2

~AK

Saying Good Bye

I don't like today because today we will have to say Good Bye.

~AK

Love Advice # 1 - Stop Blaming and Start Reflecting

 
Today Dr. John Gray advises us:

Stop blaming and start reflecting.

When you are blaming your partner, you need to look inside, listen to your feelings, and reflect on how you may have contributed to the problem. You cannot expect your partner to hear your feelings until you can come from a loving, forgiving place.

The test of love is caring for a person even though you know they are less than perfect. Learning to love completely requires you to communicate in a loving and non-blaming way.

..because it takes two to start a fight and to end it.

~AK

 

Relationship Advice from Dr. John Gray

From now on I will be posting daily relationship advice from an outstanding relationship expert and the author of the famous book "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus", Dr. John Gray.

..because sometimes we all need help.

~AK

Ukraine's Very Own the Klitschko Brothers

In case you don't know who the Klitschko brothers are..One of them (Vladimir) used to date Hayden Panettiere but is now up for grabs since the couple broke up in May last year.

Oh yeah...and the Klitschko brothers are both are World heavyweight boxing champions (WBC/WBA/WBO..etc) and the pride of my home country.


This video will give you goose bumps!

~AK

I am the Blue Eyes

You auto complete me.

 ~AK 

How we flirt.

- AS

And how we make each other beam and blush by posting this on the blog.

~AK

My Most Favourite Quote EVER

"What is my perfect crime? I break into Tiffany's at midnight. Do I go for the vault? No. I go for the chandelier; it's priceless. As I'm taking it down, a woman catches me. She tells me to stop. It's her father's business. She's Tiffany. I say no. We make love all night. In the morning the cops and I escape in one of their uniforms.
I tell her to meet me in Mexico but I go to Canada. I don't trust her. Besides, I love the cold. Thirty years later I get a postcard. I have a son. And he's the Chief of Police. This is where the story gets interesting: I tell Tiffany to meet me in Paris by the Trocadero. She's been waiting for me all these years. She's never taken another lover. I don't care. I don't show up. I go to Berlin.
That's where I stashed the chandelier."
- Dwight Shrute, The Office
- AS

Happy Happy Joy Joy

One of my favourite artists; John Mayer. One of the happiest songs.

Heart of Life



- AS

Our Mascot

AS: I do not know what the breed of this dog is, but I want it when I am older! And by older I mean when I can be bothered.

Introductions...

This is US. The bloggers.  This is us at the Rugby World Cup going on in New Zealand (October 2011).  The tickets were ridiculously expensive so we ended up going to the taverns where they showed games for free! Complete. Win.
Also, for the record.  This is NOT what the Aliens Blog is about.  No more about Rugby, the guy (le me) is more of an NFL and cricket fan.
The Blonde does not do sports, except boxing...a little bit, because of the Klitschko brothers...


-AS


The Blonde, however, kicks ass at skiing. 
She also knows how to cook and knit. And she's a beauty product junkie, and knows everything when it comes to 
..hair (I love braids), ...fashion, ..celeb looks, ..healthy eating, ..astrology and ..relationships.


~AK